I have a few questions for you since I, and the people on my small dedicated server (similar to yours), used to lag for the same reasons until I found a workaround (specific for my issue though).
- Are you running the Avorion server off your SSD?
- Did you install the Avorion server through SteamCMD (and if so, are you using Steam authentication)?
- Have you checked the network usage on your server while the server is lagging (related to internet upload bandwidth)?